Monday, March 8, 2021

If It Weren’t for the Women (Part 1)

March is Women’s History Month, and while I’m not typically fond of events that divide us humans into categories, I thought this would be a good time to write a crossover post (where my blog-writing meets my history/genealogy-educating from @time.tracing) about some women who are near and dear to my heart, even though most of them I’ve never met.

Yes, I’m talking about the women in my family tree. Women without whom, quite literally, I wouldn’t be here. Women who came from different parts of the country or the world, faced tremendous hardships, saw tremendous joy, and passed on legacies of hard work, determination, love, and faith.

I’d like to introduce you to some of those women today, not because I expect you to feel as deeply about them as I do, not even because I hope you’ll find them interesting, but because I hope through seeing their stories told collectively you will think about the women in your own family tree without whom you wouldn’t be here and will find cause to marvel at the goodness and grace of God that has preserved your family line and mine to the point where He chose to bring us on the scene by giving us life at this particular time in this particular place. So how about it? Are you ready to trace some time with me?

Catherine Yeagle Kuhl and Henry Kuhl*

The woman farthest back on my family tree of whom I have a photograph is Catherine Yeagle Kuhl, my fourth-great-grandmother. Based on what we’ve found so far, we think she was born in 1804 in the German region of Europe where she married and had children before immigrating to the United States in the 1830s and having a few more children by her husband. She lived some twenty years after immigrating but not long enough to see the tragedy that would befall her family during the Civil War (a tragedy I wrote about in a previous post). Though we don’t know much about her, her strength in traveling half a world away during the early 19th century can be inferred, and from what we know of her husband, she must have had a fortitude of steel.

Esther Radle Jones and Vasa Bozarris Jones

Moving a generation closer to present, we meet a host of fascinating women, one of whom was Esther Radle Jones, one of my sixteen third-great-grandmothers. Esther was born around 1827 in Pennsylvania and by 1850 was a young bride living with her husband Vasa in her in-laws’ household in Illinois along with her sisters- and brothers-in-law. The closeness she had with her in-laws is evident from letters written by her father-in-law to her during the Civil War. While living in Illinois, Esther’s first two children, both girls, died before they reached the age of three, but that was only the beginning of the trials she would endure.

In 1864, Vasa joined the Union Army from their new home in Ohio and would spend essentially the entirety of his military service as a prisoner of war, being captured before even seeing battle. It would be at least a month and a half before Esther received word from him that he had been captured, and letters from her father-in-law in the interim reveal that she was struggling with worry but was encouraged to lean on her faith in God. When Vasa’s letter finally arrived, Esther read, “It is very uncertain when you will see or hear from me. You must do business entirely independent of me,” so she was left to raise her three surviving children on her own.

Esther would be reunited with her husband at war’s end, but not before suffering another great loss—the death of another child, this time an eighteen-month-old son, in early 1865. After the war, she would have another son (my great-great-grandfather) before moving with her family to a fourth state—West Virginia—where she would live out the rest of her days, passing on before reaching the age of 50. By moving to West Virginia, Esther and her family set the stage for many marriages throughout subsequent generations, all the way down to that of my parents.

Ballard Alvin Lewis and Stella May Perry Lewis

Among my eight great-great-grandmothers, the one that is most frequently on my mind is Stella May Perry Lewis. Born around 1885 in Boone County, West Virginia, Stella was one of thirteen children and had six children of her own after marrying at age eighteen. In 1920, seventeen years after her marriage, she seems to disappear from the documentary record and remains the greatest mystery in my family tree. Multiple family stories conflict, circumstantial evidence pops up in pieces, and theories abound from innocent to sinister but all sad.

Her date of death, cause of death, and place of burial (if she was buried) are as yet unknown, but her photograph continues to captivate me, and if it weren’t for her and her photo, I never would have been located by my third-cousin, whom I quickly found to be a kindred spirit. Our great-grandmothers, each of whom we knew, were two of Stella’s daughters, and we’re on a mission together to find out what happened to Stella for them, for their sons (our grandfathers), and for her. Although much about her life, and particularly her death, is shrouded in mystery, Stella’s story reminds me that nothing is a mystery to God. And while we may never know this side of eternity what became of her (though not for lack of trying!), we know that she was never hidden from the sight of God.

Frances Paulette Hamrick Smith and Bert Wayne Smith with their daughter

Of my four great-grandmothers, I was blessed to know three of them (I met the fourth, but have no memory of her), and Frances Paulette Hamrick Smith was the one I knew the longest. The second of seven children, only the middle of whom was a boy, Paulette (as most people knew her) was born in 1916 in Nicholas County, West Virginia. After the family moved to nearby Webster Springs, she spent time working/living with other families to help make ends meet, and she continued working in clothing, department, and grocery stores until she reached retirement. At eighteen she married, and she gave birth to her only child on her nineteenth birthday.

                           
Frances Paulette Hamrick Smith, mowing the lawn like she did into her 90s

Paulette moved around a lot throughout her life, even almost moving to Australia for her husband’s job, but that plan fell through, and they moved instead to Madison where her future son-in-law lived. She ended up residing in central and southern West Virginia her whole life, where her days were characterized by hard work and a talent-filled passion for sewing and gardening. She would often whip out a new outfit for her daughter to go out in on the weekends, and she seemed happiest when she was outdoors. As she had grandchildren and great-grandchildren, who affectionately called her “Gamma,” she would travel with them into the heart of the mountains back to Webster Springs to visit her sisters and her mother who lived to be 101 (yes, you read that right, and yes, I got to meet her). Living through the Great Depression, World War II, and the loss of her father, siblings, and husband later in life, Gamma saw a lot of hardship and grief, but her spunkiness, laughter, and work ethic stayed with her to the very end until a stroke sent her to Jesus at the age of 92.

My spunky Gamma

These are merely snapshots of four very full lives, lives that touched and were touched by others in countless ways. Each woman’s existence stands as a reminder to us of the mercy and faithfulness of God who so graciously created each of them in His image and sustained each of them for His glory. And yet these lives are only four among so many more that make up my heritage, and my heritage is only one among billions more. The breadth and depth of God’s sovereignty, creativity, and story-crafting is breathtaking, and if it weren’t for the women, our study of His world would be a lot less colorful.


All four of the women I introduced to you today are on my mother’s side, so stay tuned for next time to hear four more stories of women from my father’s line. In the meantime, I’d love to hear from you in the comments below—who is a woman from your own family tree that you find inspirational?




*Henry Kuhl Photo Credit: Lila Powers, "To Make an Example of Them," Orlando, West Virginia, June 18, 2011 (http://orlandostonesoup.blogspot.com/2011/06/to-make-example-of-them.html : accessed March 3, 2021).


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