Monday, October 22, 2018

The Robbery of Refusing to Receive

We are entering that time of year when we seem to think more about giving than usual. November brings an emphasis on giving thanks, and December brings the giving of gifts. A common verse related to giving that is often quoted, even by those who do not believe in Jesus, is part of Acts 20:35, where Paul quotes Jesus, saying, “It is more blessed to give than to receive.”  This verse is used to encourage the cultivating of a giving spirit, but the way we interpret these words often has the added effect of discouraging a receiving spirit. It’s as if we attach an addendum to the phrase, reading it as if it said, “It is more blessed to give than to receive, so be sure you’re giving and not receiving.” But is that really what the verse is saying?

First of all, we shouldn’t add anything to Scripture, so the fact that there is no addendum should be the first major clue that Jesus was not telling us to avoid receiving. But aside from that clue, we should look elsewhere in the Bible, because the best place to go for insight on how to interpret a passage of Scripture is another passage of Scripture.

One such passage where we can look to shed light on the giving/receiving idea is 2 Corinthians 8. Paul is telling the Corinthians about the generosity of the Macedonians and encouraging them to give in kind. In explaining the extent of the Macedonians’ generosity, Paul writes in verses 3 and 4, “For they gave according to their means, as I can testify, and beyond their means, of their own accord, begging us earnestly for the favor of taking part in the relief of the saints” (ESV).

These verses, like the ones in Acts are reinforcing the idea that giving is good. But notice how Paul describes the Macedonian view of giving. They wanted “the favor of taking part in the relief of the saints.” There were fellow brothers and sisters in Christ in need, and the Macedonians wanted to be part of the blessing of meeting those needs. They gave; others received; and all were blessed by it. But what if those in need had refused to receive what the Macedonians gave? Not only would they still have been in need, but the Macedonians would have been robbed of the blessing of giving.

Over and over again, I have seen this hypothetical scenario play out in reality—Christians are in need, but they refuse to receive help, sometimes even refusing to reveal their need in the first place. Perhaps this refusal comes as an effect of the Church’s focus on giving with the implied notion that receiving is bad. Perhaps it stems from deep-seated pride (heaven forbid we admit a weakness or acknowledge some deficiency on our part). Perhaps it is rooted in a misguided sense of self-sufficiency that is only encouraged by our individualistic, “American-dream,” pull-yourself-up-by-your-own-bootstraps cultural mentality (heaven forbid we meet something that we cannot fix or solve or provide for on our own). Perhaps it emerges from a well-intentioned desire not to be a burden to others.

Whatever the reason, it is all-too-often the case that we in the Church are hesitant to or even adamantly against making our needs known to our family in Christ, whether they be physical or spiritual. If pride and self-sufficiency are our reasons, then repentance is in order. And if the reason is the thought that receiving help is equivalent to being a burden, we should broaden our view.  What we fail to realize when we refuse to receive, whatever our reason, is that not only is our stubbornness and pride keeping us from having our needs met, but it is also robbing our brothers and sisters of the opportunity to be obedient to Christ by giving and of the blessing that comes with this generous obedience.

I am reminded of an inner-city ministry that I once was a part of, which was largely run by volunteers from the church every Saturday. The operation had many moving parts and required a good deal of organization. One day, someone approached the leader with an observation that there was a way to streamline the process, reducing the number of volunteers needed to successfully fulfill the ministry’s objective. The leader’s response has always stuck with me. To paraphrase, he said that, yes, this observer was probably right but that the purpose of this ministry was not merely to serve the inner-city community but also to provide church members with an opportunity to serve, to be in the inner-city and see the needs firsthand. Simplifying the process would make it more efficient, yes, but it would reduce the number of people who would experience giving to those in need.

Similarly, how often does our refusal to ask for or receive help keep others from fulfilling the ministry of giving? And, really, if we stop to think about it, how can those of us who are in Christ legitimately be proud enough to refuse aid, physical or spiritual, from obedient human hands? Have we not received the most humbling gift of all—unearned and undeserved salvation from God Himself? So whenever we are tempted to keep our needs to ourselves, let us put our pride to death, remember the cross of Jesus Christ, and reach out to our family of faith, the community that God has given us. In doing so, we will not only open the door for ourselves to receive, but we will also be giving the opportunity to give, thus blessing those who bless us.


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