Monday, May 30, 2016

Lessons from Literature: Avoiding Defensiveness (Pride and Prejudice)

Have you ever wondered what makes some literature “classic”? Aside from purely literary criteria, I’d venture to guess that one quality of classic literature is its enduring message, i.e. its ability to transcend time and place with its treatment of human nature and its illumination of realities in the world around us.

If you’ve ever read a classic, then you likely know the moment of “Ah! Yes!” that comes from reading a sentence written hundreds of years ago yet delivering a message so relevant it could’ve been written yesterday. In short, there are loads of lessons to be learned from literature, and this post serves as the inaugural “Lessons from Literature” vignette. And who better to begin with than Jane Austen?

Unfortunately, Austen’s works are often pigeon-holed into the “chick-flick” category due to the romantic plot lines, but her novels are so incredibly deeper than boy-and-girl-meet-and-fall-in-love. Her understanding of humanity, of both the self and society, is so perceptive as to leave me shaking my head in amazement. In fact, when it comes to an Austen novel, I will actually mark in it as if it were a non-fiction book. Her insight is just that profound.

Perhaps this is why Dr. Richard Land, former president of the Southern Baptist Convention’s Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission, once told a young man who asked him for book recommendations to read all of Jane Austen’s novels. Dr. Land shared that he himself reads one a year until he reads them all then cycles through them again.

This year, as I’m participating in The Light Theater’s production of Pride and Prejudice (which you can learn about here), I’m on my second read-through of the 1813 novel and am enjoying it just as much as the first. One particular “light-bulb” moment came in Chapter 36 where Elizabeth Bennet is reading Mr. Darcy’s letter. . .

 **SPOILER ALERT—although if you haven’t read the novel, the following might whet your appetite!**

She grew absolutely ashamed of herself. Of neither Darcy nor Wickham could she think without feeling that she had been blind, partial, prejudiced, absurd.

“How despicably have I acted!” she cried; “I, who have prided myself on my discernment! I, who have valued myself on my abilities! Who have often disdained the generous candour of my sister, and gratified my vanity in useless or [blameable] distrust. How humiliating is this discovery! Yet, how just a humiliation! Had I been in love, I could not have been more wretchedly blind. But vanity, not love, has been my folly. Pleased with the preference of one, and offended by the neglect of the other, on the very beginning of our acquaintance, I have courted prepossession and ignorance, and driven reason away, where either were concerned. Till this moment I never knew myself” (Austen, 162).

The context here is that Mr. Darcy has just enlightened Elizabeth to a series of circumstances of which she was completely unaware and which now have revealed that she has been harboring unjust opinions of not one but two men. Simply put, she was in the wrong, and she has just been awakened to the fact. Yet her response is striking.

Instead of shooting back arrows of defensiveness, she humbly allows the letter’s information to sink in and honestly assesses the influence it must now have on her perspective moving forward. Recognizing that the very attitude she thought was a virtue is instead a terrible vice, she becomes ashamed of her actions and confesses her error.

What a wonderful example! How often, when we are confronted with our own failings, do we bristle up and throw out a stream of excuses instead of responding with humble reflection and change? When others offer constructive criticism or when circumstances make apparent our weaknesses, what is our response? Hopefully, it is like that of Elizabeth’s.

I can’t help but see the parallels especially between the mode of revelation for Elizabeth and the one for greater humanity. Just as Mr. Darcy’s letter exposed Elizabeth’s misjudgment, so another letter exposes our depravity, i.e. the Bible, written to us from God to reveal Himself to us and show us our sinful nature and need for Him.  

The Word of God is like a sweeping spotlight and laser beam all in one, illuminating our lives and pinpointing where we fall short of holiness. It never fails to accomplish its work (see Isaiah 55:11), and we would be remiss to balk at the instruction it gives. Yes, the process will be painful, as confessing our own error often is; we will be able to say with Elizabeth, “How humiliating is this discovery!”

But if we follow her example and avoid defensiveness, we will also be able to utter with her, “Yet, how just a humiliation!” We will be able to allow the change to happen that needs to take place, and our lives will be the sweeter for it.

So when we read God’s Letter to us and are convicted, let us follow in Elizabeth Bennet’s footsteps and resist the urge to be defensive. Let us respond with humility, remembering the admonition, “My son, do not despise the LORD’s discipline or be weary of his reproof, for the LORD reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights” (Proverbs 3:11-12, ESV). And when we are confronted from any source with our own failings, let us heed the call, “Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD, and turn away from evil” (Proverbs 3:7).





Citation: Austen, Jane. Pride and Prejudice. London: Penguin, 1994.

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